Friday, March 5, 2010

My new baby...

I have a new child, well I have several--but I'd like for you to pray for him. He's only 6. He's in foster care for the second round of having been removed from his mother's care. His mother does not hide her dislike for him to anyone and smokes marijuana just to deal with 'how bad he is'. His father physically and sexually abused him repeatedly over a period of several months. He doesn't know all of his ABC's and I'm not sure if he can count past 10. He's been so violent, in Kindergarden, he's already in an alternative school--last stop for the bad kids. A lot of our kids come in what we call "survival mode," as they've been attempting to function without what they need for sometime, but fluctuate in and out of moments of intensity. That's something we usually can rectify with behavioral interventions, and strong relationships. This child appears to function only in survival mode. It's like being in the presence of a child who doesn't seem to really exist. He is perpetually sad. And the thing of it is, he's not really shown us many behaviors---I'm not at all convinced he's addressed any of his problems--but I think that he recognizes that we are safe, and all he can do is show up and go through the motions. Can you imagine your life being so hopeless at 6? Can you imagine having no sense of who you are simply b/c your whole life is centered around surviving, existing, people liking you?

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